Madeline seemed so excited about her potty, peeing in her potty and wearing underwear so we dove right in and unfortunately appearances can be deceiving and we essentially jumped the gun. Luke and I decided that instead of pushing it on Maddy and making things harder and more stressful on everyone we would drop the whole thing for a bit and let Maddy take the lead.
As a result for the last 4 months or so we have only talked about potty related things when Madeline brought it up first, we have encouraged using the potty only when Madeline has already decided to go and we have worked to be as patient as possible. Yes she is about a month shy of 2 1/2 but that doesn’t mean that she is behind or slow, it just means that she is making her own way.
I have a confession and I really need to get this off my chest but I need you to promise that you will not tell Maddy.
Okay here goes, I am cool with letting Madeline make her own way but while I would rank peeing in diapers over peeing on my floors as more convenient for me I am over changing diapers all day long. No matter how much I love our cloth diapers I am also pretty over washing them.
Actually I am over all this diaper mumbo jumbo as a whole. Mommy is ready for a potty trained girl. BUT, and this is a big but, we are really trying to have Maddy take the lead here, because no matter how ready I am if she isn’t ready then it won’t happen. I have already learned that lesson.
I bring all of this up because in the past month or so she has been consistently telling me when she poops or pees in her diaper and asks to be changed, she has also started the interesting habit of hiding behind the curtain to do her business.
This is interesting because it means she is starting to understand what her body is doing before it does it. I have come to the conclusion that she understands her body’s cues because on several occasions I have seen her drop whatever she is doing and race to the curtains to do her business. Also this curtain activity makes me think she likes a little privacy, you know privacy like a bathroom could afford her. I’m working on redirecting her to at least stand in the bathroom instead of behind a curtain.
She has also stripped off her pants and diaper a few times to go potty on her own without prompting. This usually happens when our buddy Boo is also around and using the potty, but either way it shows an understanding and desire, right? I should say that she isn’t always every interested in the potty, but her interest seems to be growing lately.
So I told Luke I was thinking about letting Maddy have some pant-less time just so she can feel what is happening a little more and to maybe get her thinking about peeing in the potty more since she would be without her diaper safety net.
Our conversation went like this:
Me: “So I was thinking about letting Maddy go without her pants and diaper more to encourage her to use the potty.”
Luke: “Where would she be going pant-less? Somewhere other than our home would be best so that she doesn’t pee all over our floor.”
Me: (said with complete sarcasm) “Um, yeah I was going to take our pantsless daughter to the mall or the grocery store so she doesn’t pee on our carpet.”
Luke: “That’s a great idea, we’ll take her to the grocery store and when she has an accident we’ll just shout ‘clean up on aisle 3!’ and then run. We’ll never have to clean up a pee mess again!”
Yes, ladies and gentlemen I married that man.
By the time he finished his thought we were both cracking up envisioning us running from grocery store employees armed with wet mops and paper towels while simultaneously potty training our daughter.
Since potty training our daughter in the grocery store is obviously not an option I have some questions for you, because you, the Evolving Mommy readers, are the smartest people I know, or don’t know for that matter.
I would really like to encourage her to use the potty, but in a way that isn’t forceful or stressful for either of us, I still want Maddy to feel like she’s the one in the driver seat. I have a very, very smart daughter but she has a fiercely stubborn and independent streak in her just like her mother, so I think the best way is to make her feel like she is in control. Or at least create the illusion of control.
I would love your suggestions, tips and tricks. I would also love to hear what was successful for you and what were complete failures. Did you use M&M’s? Maybe you went out and got one of those dolls that pees. Was your child the neighborhood streaker for a while? It may even be possible that you think my husband is a genius and we should potty train Madeline in the local King Soopers store.
If you have posted about potty training feel free to leave the link to your post in your comment. I’m in information gathering mode.
I know that a potty trained toddler doesn’t mean the end of dirty diapers, but it would mean a smaller pile, right?