Your answer to that question may vary depending on what that one thing is.
Is one cookie enough? No, I don’t think so.
Is one shoe enough? Not if you have 2 legs.
Is one diamond enough? Well yes, but there is always room for more.
Now how about this one…Is one child enough?
Well yes I think one is enough. This post might surprise some of you but, I think one child is more than enough. My baby fills my heart with so much love and happiness of course she is “enough.” The good thing is that Luke agrees with me, we are actually more than on the same page, we are in the same paragraph and sentence.
Almost every time we leave the house we see other families out an about with their 2 or 3 or even 4 kids and I have to be honest with myself, I am just not interested. I love my little girl with all my heart, but I feel no apprehension when I say that I am happy to have one child, only one child.
We always thought that about the time Monkey turned 1 we would start trying for our second child. We assumed that 2 children was what we wanted…I mean the more children the better right. Even right after giving birth I thought that baby number two would be on the way sooner or later.
As time went on the more I started to think that I really didn’t want another baby, my heart is very happy with my little Monkey, I feel like my family is complete, there are no holes or missing pieces. As Luke and I began to talk about this and realize that we were both feeling this way the stronger the feeling became that we were on the right track.
We have had people tell us that we will change our mind, that of course we will want another baby. We have had friends and family lecture us that we couldn’t possibly let Monkey be an only child.
Although it is considered normal to have multiple children it is by no means a standard or rule. Some people may think that we are depriving our daughter by not having another child. Those people are of course entitled to their opinion, we will just have to agree to disagree.
Don’t worry mom we haven’t set anything in stone, if you know what I mean. We are fully aware that maybe in the future there is the possibility that we could change our minds. I say Maybe, that’s right with a capital M. I feel that it is important to be honest and open about what is in my heart. I love my daughter more than anything, she makes me feel like my heart could burst when she looks up at me and says “Mama.” She is a perfect little representation of both me and Luke, I don’t think I could be happier.
I think I could write about this at much longer length. I could poor out every one of our reasons for feeling this way but I think I will leave it where it is and see what you all have to say. I know that this is a subject that some people may have very strong feelings about, but I am open to hearing your comments and opinions. What do you think…is it just a given that everyone should want 2 kids, a dog and goldfish?
Oh and by the way we don’t want a dog either, but I think I will tackle that in another post.
